It is not to everyone that I share my deepest thoughts with. It is something sacred to me personally, because telling another individual what I am thinking about, means bringing down my iron wall of privacy, and letting them into my own personal space. It is as if I open my doors to you into my own inner workings, how I perceive life and how I go about living it.
(The term what I am thinking about has no ties with academia, daily life or such. It is the deepest thoughts such as; How is the world created? What is my purpose on Earth? Why are humans so physically weak as compared to animals? Ahhh yes yes, I already have suggestions that I should study the Holy Quran and I'm still working hard at it.)
There is a reason why spies are in the military. There is a reason why the military spend millions developing high-tech spy gadgets and sending their best men into dangerous territory. The reason why there are so willing to risk it all, is to know what is going on in the enemy's 'head'. Because if you know what is in their mind, you know how your enemy will react, will behave, his strengths and weaknesses. And this is precisely my point.
I always fear sharing what I have in mind on certain topics that are stereotypically labeled as 'sensitive'. Topics such as religion, ideologies and the community generally receive much flak and as such, I try to refrain from talking about it. I see this phenomena equivalent to the Israel and Pakistan unease where at the end of the day, nobody agrees to anything, and the continued debate will only bring about much unnecessary angst and wastage of energy.
This brings me about wondering, if people really want to know, add value to my thoughts and appreciate my point of view if they ask what is in my mind? Or will they shrug it off and insist that their values/thoughts are the right ones? Generally, in my opinion, there are 3 types of people who ask the question.
First, will be the ones who will listen, try to put themselves in your shoes and appreciate your point of view. They are great listeners who understand that you need an avenue to share these, thoughts and will add value by inducing further positive thinking. They are very hard to come across and I treasure the few whom I know.
Second will be the passive listeners, who will neither listen nor interrupt your thoughts. They are great to have around when you are frustrated and make great avenues of releasing stress. Most to most, they will share their experiences which may be equivalent to what you are facing. It may get frustrating at times too because it seems that they are not feeling for us.
Thirdly, there will be people who frustrate you and insist that their personal thoughts are the right ones. They are ready to go to war, so to speak. It is not that they are out there intentionally to get at us, it is just their way of saying that you are wrong, and that you need to listen to me. These are the people whom you have to steer clear away from. They restrict your thinking and narrow down your possible solutions because of the pressuring demeanor when the thoughts are carried across.
Ahhh, who am I to conclude all these at the end of the day? It is a matter of personal opinion at the end of the day and that debates are necessary to bring across different ideas, bring together varying points of view in order to move forward. I get frustrated not because the flaws in my point of view are pointed out, but rather, the lack of appreciation for my ideas and shrugging off my ideas as if invalid or irrelevant.
(The term what I am thinking about has no ties with academia, daily life or such. It is the deepest thoughts such as; How is the world created? What is my purpose on Earth? Why are humans so physically weak as compared to animals? Ahhh yes yes, I already have suggestions that I should study the Holy Quran and I'm still working hard at it.)
There is a reason why spies are in the military. There is a reason why the military spend millions developing high-tech spy gadgets and sending their best men into dangerous territory. The reason why there are so willing to risk it all, is to know what is going on in the enemy's 'head'. Because if you know what is in their mind, you know how your enemy will react, will behave, his strengths and weaknesses. And this is precisely my point.
I always fear sharing what I have in mind on certain topics that are stereotypically labeled as 'sensitive'. Topics such as religion, ideologies and the community generally receive much flak and as such, I try to refrain from talking about it. I see this phenomena equivalent to the Israel and Pakistan unease where at the end of the day, nobody agrees to anything, and the continued debate will only bring about much unnecessary angst and wastage of energy.
This brings me about wondering, if people really want to know, add value to my thoughts and appreciate my point of view if they ask what is in my mind? Or will they shrug it off and insist that their values/thoughts are the right ones? Generally, in my opinion, there are 3 types of people who ask the question.First, will be the ones who will listen, try to put themselves in your shoes and appreciate your point of view. They are great listeners who understand that you need an avenue to share these, thoughts and will add value by inducing further positive thinking. They are very hard to come across and I treasure the few whom I know.
Second will be the passive listeners, who will neither listen nor interrupt your thoughts. They are great to have around when you are frustrated and make great avenues of releasing stress. Most to most, they will share their experiences which may be equivalent to what you are facing. It may get frustrating at times too because it seems that they are not feeling for us.
Thirdly, there will be people who frustrate you and insist that their personal thoughts are the right ones. They are ready to go to war, so to speak. It is not that they are out there intentionally to get at us, it is just their way of saying that you are wrong, and that you need to listen to me. These are the people whom you have to steer clear away from. They restrict your thinking and narrow down your possible solutions because of the pressuring demeanor when the thoughts are carried across.
Ahhh, who am I to conclude all these at the end of the day? It is a matter of personal opinion at the end of the day and that debates are necessary to bring across different ideas, bring together varying points of view in order to move forward. I get frustrated not because the flaws in my point of view are pointed out, but rather, the lack of appreciation for my ideas and shrugging off my ideas as if invalid or irrelevant.
