Reblog: Sisters, Marry Down!

It may be a somewhat futile attempt to cope with the signs of Qiamat, however, articles that are thought provoking and controversial in a good way should be shared. It is articles like these that help to realign the minds of the opposite sex in a world where Taylor Lautner and David Beckham are seen as the alpha male.

Excerpt: "What’s the one thing that’ll help both of you overlook each other’s not-so-charming’s habits? Good character. A patient husband will understand why you haven’t had a chance to cook dinner. A great-looking husband with an anger problem will not. You’ll never find the perfect guy, so be honest with yourself and embrace what really matters to you. If you want a good provider, then know that he’ll work a lot and won’t be home much. If quality time is important to you, then you won’t have as much disposable income because he’ll be at home – with you!"

Source: muslimvillage.com, "Sisters, Marry Down!"

Knowledge is Power

With or without realising, we perceive certain knowledge as irrelevant to life, not related to the field of expertise, too difficult, too technical, too dry etc, and subsequently come to a conclusion not to pursue it. At times, there is reasonable justification to not acquire the knowledge that was presented, and in such cases, it may be overlooked. However, choosing not to acquire it because of trivial reasons, is only foolish and would result in a lack of thinking maturity only allowing such narrow minded outlook in life that reside in lesser minds.

Knowledge is the only truly valuable possession that nobody, not even the finest robber could steal. Banks can go bust, vaults can be broken into, gold can be stolen, but knowledge is a treasure unlike anything. It is something intangible, something that cannot be measured, a sparkling diamond, yet so many take it for granted. If the opportunity is given to accumulate such great wealth that can never be stolen or lost but only gain in value with time, why waste it?

It is to little wonder there are so many quotes related to the acquisition of knowledge, encouraging us to acquire it, to use it correctly, to help other people and to improve our lives. Knowledge is power. The pen is mightier than the sword. A book is a gift you can open again and again. Rethink, relearn, and learn new things everyday. Because the day we stop learning, is the day we die.

Will to Choose

There is the temptation to leave it all up to fate. A foolish attempt to calm the mind, heart and soul, by believing that it is all on the predestined path that we are supposed to thread through. It answers the questions that linger, and bring a closure to the uncertain or unsure. Time and time again it worked for many, for a select few, they do much more.

These select few are self-critical and analyse the external/internal factors that contributed towards an occurrence. Understanding why it happened, how it happened, and what could be done to make the experience better. It is this conscientiousness that makes for a more meaningful lifestyle, bringing a deeper meaning to existence and understanding the relevance or consequences of actions to the present and future. In other words, it allows for the learning from mistakes.

Reflection during these moments may bring up feelings of regret. Now, regret is good. It teaches and creates an emotional imprint in the mind saying that it was not a good decision. And also this regret, would mean that at one point of time in life, there is the ability to choose one from the other(s) creating the mentality that we can mould our own destiny. Life is in your hands.

It is always the case dreading the feeling of mulling over decisions, choices and options. Even more so when there is not much time. But think about it. It is the gift of "Will to Choose" that gives us the ability to decide for ourselves whether we will be successful or otherwise in the future.

Maturity and Foul Play

The 2-week holiday wasn't just any ordinary holiday. Sure, there was the day trip overseas, reunions with old friends, a few jungle safaris in the gardens and going on a fully-paid shopping spree. But besides the customary pleasantries, there comes a time in life, when somebody unknowingly:
1) gives advice that hit right at the spot.
2) utters a fleeting remark that keeps us in deep thought.
3) explained an analogy that best represented a scenario.

It happened several times during the short stint and it left an awe-struck feeling learning about the level of thinking maturity residing in a person so young. Perhaps, the lack of initial interest to related psychological disciplines may have contributed to the dumbstruck reaction. Most likely as a whole, it is always exciting to learn of a theory that explains a situation once thought ambiguous. Or being given the opportunity to have a conversation with a person that could explain something useful. The lesson that was drawn from this particular individual shall be aptly named "Maturity and Foul Play."

The lesson explains why older men, favour younger women primarily because of innocence and not possessing the 'yet to acquire ability' to comprehend more mature factors that affect mate selection (eg. financial stability, family compatibility, age to get married). The men are not scrutinised, interrogated, or examined during courtship and everything seems like a path lined with roses. Upon the woman reaching that specific age however, the ability is acquired and the relationship soon comes to a make or break point. She will start asking herself if the man can give her what she is looking for, mate suitability, hereditary diseases, societal behaviours, etc. When a breakup occurs, this is called foul play. As such, it was advised that men look for mates that have passed the specific age, to ensure that both sides know what each other wants from the relationship and know what they are diving into.

What made this lesson worthy of mention was at that point of time, its relevance affected everyone in the discussion. Coincidence? Perhaps. In my opinion, its just another logical explanation to breakups because essentially, there is no point mulling over spilt milk and many a times, lessons should have come sooner rather than later. However, mistakes do accentuate the seriousness of such life lessons and stay imprinted in the mind much longer. So thankfully we made the mistake.

With that lesson in mind, here's a great start to adult life...